Feeling happy in a relationship

We were together for 7 years. The last 2 years we kept ending up in the same discussions.

I had a very strong feeling that I was still trying to make it better then it was, while he was only busy with himself. Looking back, I saw that I had lost myself because I was focusing on us and on him too much.

So when we kept ending up in the same loops, I felt hopeless and at the same time I realized "I have to get out" and "we have to go our own way, because we do not make each other happy anymore."

It is important to me that you make each other stronger and that you feel happy.

At that point I was not ready yet to break up, but I moved out. We first decided to not live together anymore. And when that was actual, I could feel that it was not enough and that we had to let each other go.