I am jealous
Hello,
I am walking around with a problem since years already. I am jealous. In my previous relationships, my boyfriends were supportive. They were also jealous themselves, that made it easier.
Now I met somebody with whom I can see myself in the future. But I am scared that I will ruin it because of the jealousy and I want to prevent that! I am always afraid that he will find somebody else that is more beautiful/nicer/prettier then me.
The end of my last relationship hurt me a lot and I don't want a broken heart again. That makes me feel even more fearful and jealous.
He also has female friends where he feels close with. That's very hard for me to take.
How to deal with this? How do other people deal with this?
1About jealousy: there will always be more beautiful women. So I wouldn't worry about that. That's just a given fact.
If he, for any reason at all, would make the choice for another woman that would have happened. You have the same freedom by the way.
To think all the time "what if he this or that.." is very tiring and doesn't have a good effect on the relationship.
Trust that you're good enough. Belief in yourself. You are who you are and that's who he fell in love with.
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