I cheated, should I confess?

Well... you put yourself in a difficult situation.

It is for sure a moment to feel and think about weather you really would like to stay in this relationship and if so, how you would like it to continue.

Apparently you have more need for sex then your partner does. There are many ways to deal with this. You do not need to cheat for it.

Some suggestions:

> See if you can enjoy your longing for sex, without acting on it. The feeling of longing alone can already be fantastic, without doing anything with it.

> See if you can enjoy masturbation more often. You can satisfy your sexual needs also by yourself.

> Look at the possibilities for an open relationship. Within an open relationship, it is very important to be honest.

Best of luck.

I think that's a very difficult question; tell him or not tell him. Personally I think that telling him will often damage too much.

I think I would rather not know, but that the problem is still solved. You know what I mean?

So if my partner would have cheated because we don't have enough sex, than I don't want to know that he's cheating, but I would like that he tries to talk with me about that he wants more sex.

Well, anyway, that's what I think about it.
You know already if you're going to tell him or not?

You just followed your feeling, it is much fun.. the attention.. that's just so.. keep it for yourself and let it be a life lesson.

J I really understand what you're going through. I have to congratulate you on being honest with your wife from the get go. Telling her that you were attracted to someone else was a huge step.

It's really easy to say "oh if you both make the effort you can be happy again" - but I don't believe that's always the case. And it sounds like the woman you have been in contact with is more than just a physical attraction. After all, it has lasted years.

I just wanted to say that it would be a shame to miss out on someone that might be your soul mate just because you think that you should 'do the right thing' and stay in the marriage because that's what your wife wants. The chances are that your wife will eventually find someone that truly loves her as she deserves to be loved in the now. Good luck x

My advice is to put it behind you and don't tell him. Lock it in a little box and push it to the back of the brain cupboard. It made you realise that you want to be with your bf so in the long run this could be a good thing for you to have experienced x