I lost myself

We have been together for 7 years. The last 2 years we always ended up at the same discussion.

I always had the feeling I was trying to make it better then what we had, while he was only busy with himself. Looking back I see I lost myself because I was so much focussed on us and on him.

So after we always came to the same point again and again, I felt hoplessness and at the same time I realized "I have to get out" and "we have to go our own ways, because we don't make each other happy anymore".

For me it is important that you make each other stronger in a relationship and that you feel happy.

Back then I was not ready to divorce, but I found an appartment to live in. We decided to first live on our own. And once that was realized, I felt it wasn't enough and that we should completely seperate.