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My family in law is much too present

My family in law is much too present

Good to read other people´s stories. That strengthens me. Looks like every family has some cross to bear. My personal cross is mainly my family in law. I just cannot get along with them.I think they are way too present. And actually I never want to see them. I mean, I never feel like seeing them.

My partner notices this. It´s actually painful for him. I wish I could feel more enthusiastic. but come one, when I explain the story to my friends, they all understand. Why does my partner not understand?


Anonymous
> 2 years ago

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Hello Anonymous

That is a tricky situation. Your partner grew up in that family and loves then. That does not automatically mean that you like them. I had the same problem. We solved this by going for a set time in the week, weather I want to or not (Saturday to his parents, Sunday to mine), and mainly by getting to understand what I do not like.

F.e. My family in law is very cuddly and loud, I am not, so we agreed on some boundaries for me and that works. I also deliberately looked for what I DO like (the closeness, always ready to help, honest...)

This is of course not a miracle trick, but it worked surprisingly well for me. Maybe it will help you too.

Greetings,


Daughter in law
> 2 years ago

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