My husband has a midlife crisis

Mu husband and I are together since 30 years. I dare to say we had a fantastic marriage. They saw us as the perfect couple and that's how we saw it too. We were so happy together and it was our dream to grow old together.

Since 7 weeks he doesn't want to talk with me anymore. He met somebody else, didn't have any feelings for me anymore since long time. He wanted to get to know her better and divorce me. Just like that! I never saw that coming. Looking back he was a bit distant the last months. His thoughts were with that other woman.

It's indescribable how much this hurts. I read a lot about the mlc, to understand it a little. He had a difficult childhood and a few years ago he lost his job. Now I realize that that brought him down.

Extreme sports, strange diet, drink too much, use drugs and now he fell in love with somebody else. All flight behavior. The relationship with his soulmate doesn't have much chance of success. She is also in a divorce. He will have to find out about this himself, I cannot do anything.

After he dropped the bomb he hoped I would be angry and throw him out. But I stayed calm, no idea how I did that with all those heavy emotions. We still have regular contact, but he is very clear.

He wants to get to know her better and wants to stay friends with me. It can be years before he falls off his pink cloud and realizes what he's doing. How this can happen? I have no clue, time will tell.