She already started another relationship
Hey everybody, (male, 31)
I have had a relationship of 13 years, we had ups and downs as in every relationship I think. Only this year I got depressed and my ex too, so that was not a good combination. I took the step to break up, because we were often in a fight and we didn't feel the love anymore.
Just after we broke up, she wanted to continue and I thought it would be better for us to move on without each other.
But after only 2 months, she already started another relationship and I miss her and want her back. I do not tell her this. Feel like I live in hell, because we actually had a beautiful relationship before this time, build up something beautiful together. I realize I took the decision to fast to break up. But the worst is that she treats me like air, she doesn't want to have to do anything with me.
We loved each other for 13 years and after 2 months she doesn't feel anything for me anymore. I don't understand that.
Anyway. I try to survive everyday. Can somebody give me some motivation, share what you think about it?
Hello Whitestar
That must suck big time for you.
But, if she has another relationship right now and doesn't want to have to do anything with you, it is best to respect that I think.
Although that may be hard right now, you can also try to focus on the future again. You could also meet other women again.
An easy way to do that is speeddating. Than you meet in a short period of time different women and that put things in a different perspective.
Or focus your attention on other things you like. If you start to do things you like, you will start to feel better.
Good luck!
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