Stay with family or allow the new love to happen?
I am a 35 year old woman. I am married and am the mother of three young children.
I have always been happy in my relation. But a while ago I fel in love with another man. He also fel in love with me. The feelings are very strong.
This puts me in a difficult position and I don't know if I want to divorce or if I want to stay with my partner and my family. This is of course a major decision. On one hand I don't want to give up my family and my relationship. But on the other hand I also want to allow this new love to happen...
2Falling in love happens to everybody. Also me. I learned for myself that this is a signal that I miss something.
What is it in the person I fell in love with that attracts me? Do I miss that in my partner? Or did I forget to give that to myself? Why do I need it? Do I like to feel special? Why do I need that from somebody else?
These are the questions I ask myself when I fall in love. It is very clarifying. Acting on those feeling is for me a bridge too far.
I think (almost) everybody every once in a while falls in love with somebody while you are in a relationship/marriage. It is about the choices you make at that point.
You can always fall in love with somebody else, even when you love somebody.
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