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Tips for coping with sex problems

Would you like some tips and advice how to deal sex problems in your relationship?

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Tip 1 - Make time for sexuality in your relationship

Make time for sexuality in your relationship. Sexuality does not always have to lead to intercourse.

You can also keep it accessible, maybe it can be like in the start of your relation: fast kissing, make love with your clothes on, caress each other.


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Tip 2 - Try and keep sex playful

Try and keep sex playful.
Don't force it too much.


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Tip 3 - A sexual relationship has different ingredients then a safe relationship

Enjoying a good relationship does not necessarily mean that there is a satisfying sexual relationship. Because for a sexual relationship, other ingredients are needed then for a safe relationship.

Don't hesitate to seek help for this.


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Tip 4 - Find a relationship counsellor

Are your suffering from sex problems in your relationship? Could you use some support?

A relationship counsellor can help you.


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Tip 5 - Share your story

For many people it helps to write down and share their story with others. You can share your story on the intimacy-issues-peer-support-forum on this website.


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Tip 6 - Intimacy can have many forms

Intimacy can have many forms. A pleasant night together could start with a good conversation or a walk in the park, make dinner together or finish a job in the house together. And appreciated each other for it.


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Tip 7 - Make a 'sexy list'

Make a 'sexy list'. That is an extensive list that you and your partner each make. You put on it what excites you, what arouses you. Be honest. Then you can give each other the list and talk about it with each other.

Don't expect your partner to do everything that is on your list. You do get more insight in what you like and what your partner likes.

And if you both feel like, then you can every once in a while surprise your partner by doing one of the things on the list.


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Tip 8 - Look into your ideas about sex and sexuality

Do you experience problems in sex? Have a look into the ideas you have in your family about sex and sexuality. It can be that there is a history of miscarriages or an abortion nobody was allowed to talk about. These things can be of influence on how free you feel in sexuality. A therapist can support you in this.


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Tip 9 - Make time for it

A busy family life can be the cause of less time for intimacy. Make time for it. Book a hotel. Organize a sleep over for the kids at your parents place or find a babysitter and spend time with just the two of you for a day and a night.


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Tip 10 - Share your personal manual

Try to share your personal manual as much as possible with your partner. This can of course be different any moment.


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Tip 11 - Cultivate Emotional Vulnerability

Being emotionally vulnerable with your partner can significantly deepen your connection and enhance your sexual relationship. Emotional vulnerability involves sharing your innermost feelings, desires, and fears with your partner. This level of openness can create a stronger emotional bond, making sexual experiences more meaningful and fulfilling. Encourage open and honest communication about your emotions, and practice active listening when your partner shares theirs. This can lead to a more empathetic understanding of each other's needs, both emotionally and sexually.

Phil Walker


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Tip 12 - Prioritize Physical Touch Beyond Sex

Physical touch that isn't necessarily sexual in nature can also play a vital role in maintaining a healthy sexual relationship. Simple gestures like holding hands, hugging, kissing, or cuddling can foster intimacy and closeness without the pressure of sexual performance. These acts of affection reinforce your physical connection and can naturally lead to a more active and satisfying sex life. Make it a point to incorporate more non-sexual physical touch into your daily interactions, demonstrating to your partner that your affection extends beyond the bedroom.







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