Map your coping behavior

Map your coping behavior

>Infidelity touches relationship in safety and trust. When safety and trust are touched, people often feel deeply hurt. That is difficult to carry. /> />As an answer to the pain, different coping mechanisms appear. Behavior that teaches you to deal with the pain. Or behavior that wants to prevent this pain to happen in the future. However human and understandable these coping mechanisms are, they often bring people from bad to worse. /> />It is not easy to recognize your own coping mechanism. And considering that your relationship does not have so much safety and trust anymore, your partner is now also not the one to point out your coping mechanisms to you. Even your friends and family will not always be able to show them to you. They are too close. You can find out about your coping mechanisms with a therapist. /> />You want to start yourself? Map your coping behavior. Don't look for blame, cause or result. Look for your circle. Start with what bothers you the most. Just because in a circle you have to start somewhere and that will come to the foreground. That will be behavior A. What came before behavior A? And before that? and before that? En what comes after behavior A? And after that? And after that? Try to make the circle round (together with your partner) /> />Is this too difficult? Give yourself and your relation the benefit of support. That will save you from endlessly walking in the same circle.>

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