Tamsin

Relationship Therapy & Couples Coaching

Hi, I’m Tamsin! From a young age I’ve been fascinated by how the mind works, and how understanding this can help people lead better lives; so I studied a Psychology degree at Oxford Uni, then a MA in Anthropology, in order to help me to learn more about this!

I’ve worked in health and wellbeing for the last 10 years, and undertaken training and study in a variety of wellbeing practices (see below). I've worked as a coach/counsellor with my own business since 2019.

I would very much like to work with you if you are an individual who would like to learn how to process difficult emotions better, lift low mood, overcome the unhelpful patterns that arise as a result of difficult life events, build positive habits, reduce stress and anxiety, and create more life direction and balance. For couples, I can also help you to reduce conflict, improve levels of trust, connection, communication and intimacy.

My belief is that everyone can lead a better life, if they are empowered with the right tools and support, and I love to equip my clients with these - in order to help them reach their full potential and create a rewarding and fulfilling life and/or relationship!

I offer various therapy and coaching modalities geared towards emotional/psychological wellbeing, relationships, parenting and change. I work with couples using a combination of mindfulness ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), CBT, Solutions Focused Therapy, IFS (Internal Family Systems), Positive Psychology, Attachment Theory and Gottman therapy.

My aim is to combine the best of research-based methods with a compassionate and non-judgemental, whole-person, attitude. My approach is neurodiversity affirming, and LGBTQIA+ friendly.

Particular areas of interest for me include:

Relationships (and parenting)

• Exploring how past difficult life events (E.g. in family of origin or previous relationships) are impacting on your current relationships (or parenting) and taking gentle but effective steps to overcome these challenges.
• Communication and conflict resolution for couples; increasing connection and intimacy.
• Mindful/conscious relationships and parenting

General:

• Processing difficult emotions arising from past life events
• Reducing stress and anxiety; improving low mood.
• Direction finding; leading a more rich and meaningful life; finding a better work-life balance and creating positive habits.
• Working with potential high performers to remove blockages to achievement.
• Improving communication skills and ability to connect better to those around you.
• Working with neurodiversity (especially ADHD, dyslexia, austism) – in both adults and teens.
• Mindfulness, meditation; and whole-person approaches to wellbeing.
• Working with burnout and fatigue, especially for those in caring/changemaking/charitable sectors.
• Self-compassion.

Teens

• Discovering own positive strengths and values.
• Wise decision making.
• Coping with social media and peer pressure
• Tools and strategies for dealing with stress and anxiety (Including school and exam pressure, and family challenges).

I’ve facilitated Mindful Parenting Courses (for Renew Your Mind) and Mindfulness in High Schools (Ember Torowai Takitini) as well as in workplace settings, and currently offer regular Wellbeing Circles in West Auckland.

I have a strong commitment to my own wellbeing and continued professional development, undertake regular supervision, and follow standard ethical guidelines for counsellors (E.g. NZAC).

If you want to know more or make an appointment, feel free to contact me.

Tamsin