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My family in law is much too present

Good to read other people´s stories. That strengthens me. Looks like every family has some cross to bear. My personal cross is mainly my family in law. I just cannot get along with them.I think they are way too present. And actually I never want to see them. I mean, I never feel like seeing them.

My partner notices this. It´s actually painful for him. I wish I could feel more enthusiastic. but come one, when I explain the story to my friends, they all understand. Why does my partner not understand?

I have problems with my daughter and son in law. Actually mainly with my son in law and of course my daughter supports him. It went already to such a degree that I do not know if it will ever be ok again.

I already had a conversation with my daughter, but that nothing was achieved, because I am not allowed to say anything about him that bothers me. I have to talk to him about that, she says. And I would like to, but he doesn´t want that. I only get blames and that doesn´t solve anything.

I have a bad relationship with my father and he blames me that I do not share enough with him, while he is also not doing that.

Now they think that it is because of his new girlfriend, although I have said many times now that this is not the problem.

This year it escalated, because he broke is promise and it was told to me by her. He thinks it is about the object, but for me it is about that he did not say anything before that he would come back to it.

I do not know what to do anymore. Now I have to go to a birthday visit soon and I do not know how to handle this.

We have a problem in our family. One of our children is fighting a lot, at school and also at home. it is difficult to make contact with him. He seems to close himself off more and more.