Intimacy issues - peer support forum
Do you suffer from intimacy issues?
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My girlfriend has problems with intimacy
I love to cuddle and make love, but she needs more space on her own.
Also when I just would like to cuddle, she immediately thinks I want more and that makes her freeze.
I have many connections. 1,5 years ago, one of them, of woman, became very honest with me and told me about her feelings for me. At first I was flattered, but at a certain point she expressed that she would like to have sexual relation with me.
That was exactly the e-mail that my wife read. Now she doesn't trust me anymore and our relationship is going down.
My boyfriend was single for a long time. In this period he did not have sex. He says that it is fine for him to have no sex. So it is difficult for me to seduce him.
Although he says it's him and that it has nothing to do with me, I still feel rejected. It feels painful. I have feelings too! Now I hardly ever seduce him anymore. I have noticed it does something to my fantasies too. They are changing. This worries me.
Hey very good that you share this. Amazing that a man can also do that, reject many times. It feels also painful to me and I start to have fantasies about other woman because of it. Is this recognizable for others? Cause I don't really want it.
I am a young woman, 24 years old and I suffer from vaginism. Medical check-up showed that physically there is nothing wrong with me.
I had some appointments with the doctor and she referred me to a sexologist, but I do not dare to go yet.
I read on the internet that it can have to do with negative messages about sex from parents to children. My parents never talked about anything, so definitely not about sex.
The worst thing is that I am too afraid to start something with a man, because I'm scared that I feel freeze and it is super difficult for me to talk about it.
I hope that somebody has some experience or some tips to help me on my way?
Ow, I am very sorry to hear that. I can definitely imagine it happens, there is so much guilt and shame around sex.
Only thing I can do is advise you to share with people about it and go to a sex therapist. Nothing to be ashamed about!! Many many people have problems around intimacy, everybody in his or her own way. I wish you freedom and pleasure!
I have intimacy problems in my relationship. My girlfriend has issues with intimacy.
I love to cuddle and make love, but she often doesn't want this.
Also when I just want to hug, she immediately things I want more and freezes.
I recognize what you say, my wife also doesn't want anymore. It was fantastic for many years, but by now we haven't had many cuddling moments anymore since almost three years. Let alone making love...
I like my boyfriend very much. I find him attractive. And the sex is good. Still we do not make love very often. Once a week, sometimes twice. It is hard for me to get in the mood.
Afterwards I'm often surprised that it was so good; why don't we do this more often. And then again it takes a while. I don't recognize this from other relationships where I made love more often.
Is this normal?
I have a sex addiction, quite strong, I need more and more extreme images to feel excited.
Now I met a girl that I really like, but now I notice that, because I got used to and need such extreme images, it is hard for me to feel excited when we are having sex.
Anybody recognizes this?
I am a woman, but I have met men who had the same. I can only advice you to stop watching porn and find other ways to release tension in your body. For example by doing sports.
And with your girlfriend... when you are lucky she might enjoy going into more extreme sexuality, but I can actually recommend something else. Stop paying attention to the images and instead start paying attention to the woman behind the image. Discover the more soft, heartful side of sexuality and learn to enjoy that. It is less exciting but much more fulfilling in the end.
I have a sex addiction. I feel the need to watch porn on the internet everyday.
I do this for months now and I don't manage to stop it.
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