Insecure in relationship - peer support forum
Insecure in relationships
Do you suffer from feelings of insecurity in your relationship?
For a lot of people it's helpful to write down and share their story. This open forum is a great place for:
- Getting things off your chest.
- Reading the stories of peers.
- Connecting with peers and responding to stories.
Read the stories of other people who feel insecure in their relationship and share your story.
I feel insecure in my relationship. Sometimes I fear my partner will leave me, even though there is no reason to. We are together for many years now.
Still I feel insecure and I wonder if I'm still nice and attractive enough.
For you Anonymous: I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully you will fall in love with yourself first. I wish that for you.
I am a 39 year old man and I thought I had a happy relationship with my girlfriend. But since we have kids, our connection became superficial.
Our kids are 1 and 3 years old and it seems like she is in love with the kids now and not with me anymore, I don't count anymore in our household, except to earn money and help in the household.
When I talk about it with here she says it's normal and part of having children. That they come before the relationship. I don't agree with her on that, but how can I convince her?
That sounds like a very shitty feeling; that you are only useful for the money. It's a pity that talking about it didn't give any results. I think that would make me feel even more lonely.
Still I would try and keep talking about it. Just not to convince her. Often when people feel that somebody tries to convince them, they start to defend themselves and they forget to listen. At least, that's my experience.
After years of experience with my partner. So I think: talk about it, but even more important; listen about it. And after that speak about it. But as soon as you try to convince, stop the conversation and go for a walk around the block. Even if it is only in thoughts.
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